We all have a mother, yet not everyone has a close, loving relationship with theirs. I lost my mother to cancer six years ago on Christmas day. I worked in a hospital for twenty-eight and a half years so knowing death is nothing new to me. I see death as just the cycle of life. Everything that lives, dies in its own time. We can not keep people alive for our sake, we have to keep moving forward or we too die. I see some people shut down after the death of their parent/s, while others seem to move on and live life to its fullest.
A mother's love is like no other. She will cry for her child who suffers and die for them if need be. A mother loves her child no matter what, but that is not to say they must tolerate that child's adult behavior. Mental illness can be the hardest of human disorders not only to manage but also to be a friend or relative of a person suffering from it. My mother suffered with one such child, me. I've suffered from Major Depressive Disorder, along with a few other diagnoses for most of my life. Mom suffered from depression as well so having a child with it did not go well. The long story I'll tell another time, what is important is that we made peace several years before her death. I am so thankful for the time and the effort on both our parts to mend broken hearts. I mourn my mom's death don't get me wrong. I don't go to a dark place that holds no answers nor does it change death. I miss her but my faith allows me the comfort of knowing she is with God now and I can still talk to her anytime I want. What a blessing that truly is. A mother's love goes on forever in our memories. As I grow older I understand what my mom must have gone through raising five children alone. The constant fear and anxiety she must have felt. Then to have a child with learning disabilities and mental illness must have been more than she could handle at times. Although it may not have seemed like love, she did the best she could with what she had. Now that statement is true for all of us. "We do the best we can so with the tools and knowledge we have at the time." author unknown. I understand so much about my mom and the way she behaved when I was a child that I am empathetic to all "moms". We are not given an instruction book that teaches us how to be parents and our schools lack good psycho, social education. So what do all parents do......the best they can with what they have at the time. For far too many it means they have children far too young to be having children and no real plan as to how to manage a house full of kids. Our society is falling apart for so many reasons but the main reason is the disintegration of the family unit. A mother's love can save us all from now to the end of time. A mother's love protects us, guides us, and shows us the way love is supposed to feel. When all this fails, so does the child. When a mother is gone from this earth her love should carry on in her children. You don't have to be an actual mother to love others the way Mary loved Jesus. We all have the duty to love and tolerate each other with a mother's love. When the time comes, and it will, you can carry on knowing the love your mother had for you is what will carry on to the next generation as it should. A mother's love is like no other, a blessing we all have and should all share.
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